skillbuilder wrote:Can't Never Tried wrote:BoogeyMan wrote:In this case. Why doesn't Edina just ask some other association to help evaluate the kids? In return. Edina can help evaluate their kids.
This way you stay away from "Its not what you know it's who you know"
I thought I heard last year that there are some associations that do this. Does anyone know for sure?
Pros / Cons?
Ultimately someone always knows someone from the helping assoc. and it ends up pretty much the same...
I am not in favor of closed tryouts either, IMO it actually makes the situation worse because those same worked up parents after the tryouts, are going to be the same ones freaking out their own kids and stirring up problems that don't even exist before and during.
Best approach is openness... and if your on the choosing end be honest and have some integrity, if your on the chosen end have some dignity and self control you and your child will be glad you did.
It's funny when I was young and played sports I knew where I stood and was never really that dissapointed, as long as there was a place to play you were good.
Oh and mom and dad?? they were busy with their own business of working and housekeeping, not chasing down coaches or evaluators..going to a game was the exception not the rule, some could take a lesson from that.
So actually yeah the kids could pick the teams and be ok with it, but it's not just for the kids anymore or that would have happened long ago.
CNT you are so right but only in a vacuum. When the club foregoes it's integrity over and over we are still asked to maintain our self control and not hold them accountable and just wait for them to find their way. The only thing other than publicly challenging them that will work to stop it is competition. This behavior stems from monopolization. Once those barriers are broken down, and it's already happening ie. MN Made, private school bantams, and other venues to be launched soon, there will be consequences for the offending clubs and they may think twice about continuing the shinanagans. If most clubs would commit to developing more than 15 kids per level a lot of this wouldn't be an issue. The best way to do that is to have kids play with and against kids of their own skill level. #16 playing with #90 isn't it.
It's a game..kids play games, adults watch kids play games for fun and enjoyment....we are talking about associations...not clubs.
Associations commit to the whole program from mini-mites to Jr gold, clubs focus on their clubs be it PW, bantams, or what ever.
I don't know what vacum your talking about?? unless it's the one that has sucked all the common sense out of the children that we have raised that are apparently now this age group.
I have said many times, having been through the ride that mistakes have been made..and I have learned from them..now some of you younger folks have the opportunity in this information age to learn the mistakes that were made and better things through community effort, not individual wants and needs, if you want things to be how you see they should be, get involved and quit saying it's all the associations fault, if you are right in your convictions you will get support and you can change things.. I know because I've done it.
I think it's lame to blame without contributing, it's never easy to change things but the effort is always worth it in the end....it has been for me!
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Is it for you or the kids?