Excellent post HockeyHeaven. I have not heard many if any girls complain about coaching. Its usually the parents that complain and its usually directly related to playing time or winning. I've never heard my daughter complain about coaching and she has had many coaches. She loves to play hockey and playing the game is working hard and listening to her coach. Much like life you work hard and listen to your boss to succeed.hockeyheaven wrote:Reading these reply’s you get the feeling some people just don’t understand what going on. That maybe their view is somewhat distorted based on their experience (or lack there of). You can blame bad coaches or incompetent evaluators all you want, but my experience tells me that the elite players are elite because they have a real and full passion for the game. You can see it, heck you can feel it. Good coaching and quality instruction is fundamentally part of the equation, but isn’t necessarily crucial. The top players develop because they have found a personal significance with the sport (maybe an identity, I don’t’ know) but a definite love for the game and the competition, for which they just can’t get enough. The reason they are playing year round is because they can. The opportunities are there so they take full advantage of them. IMO these girls don’t go to the Advance Development programs with the expectation that they will become Olympians. They go because they love to compete. That’s what competitive athletes do; they continuously match their skills with the skills of other competitive athletes. This takes commitment and this takes sacrifice. The notion that the “others” are left behind is absurd. The brass ring is there for all who seek it. I think I heard once that you generally get out what you put in. And there is no magic formula to follow. Play year round or not, it still comes down to fervor for the game and lot of hard work. It’s been my understanding that success is promised to no one. If you get left out it’s not because someone blocked the entrance, it’s because you weren’t willing (or able) to go in. I think possibly the ones doing the most complaining are the ones who want the prize just handed to them. They are use to too many participation medals. They feel that they deserve it because they simply showed up. I may be old school, but that’s how it’s always worked. The reason you see players drop off is because it’s inevitable. Not just in girl’s hockey, but for all sports. One reason is the pursuit other interests, the other is they no longer can compete for playing time because of diminishing roster spots. Believe me it’s not some huge conspiracy. It’s life. The sooner you understand this, the clearer the picture gets.
As far as evaluators, in general they get it right but its not an exact science and there is no way an evaluator can watch all of the girls all of the time and "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". I've been around a lot of rinks. I really like to listen to what people say about how players played. I find it interesting that very knowledgeable hockey people will have totally different opinions of the same player in the same game. There was a 50% turnover in the players that made Phase 3 at Advanced 16 level this year. Why is that? I think its many factors for reasons discussed here ad nauseum. The point is that there is hope. To not make it one year is not the end of the journey nor does it mean your daughter was not good enough or treated unfairly.
I think the most important point stated by HockeyHeaven is that many of the top girls play year round for the love of the game. If you can afford it, let the feelings and desires of your daughter guide you and not your personal desires for their future.